It may come as a surprise to those living in Indian subcontinent that baby boys are no longer preferred sex in North America and Europe and even in Korea.Parents and couples are more happy at the arrival of a baby girl than baby boy.If the second borne child is also a baby boy then parents may receive sympathy messages and negative remarks from relatives and friends.So much so that counselors and writers on family matters are now advising people not to make nasty remarks in front of mother or elder son.
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" 8 things you should never say to a mom"
I am taking quoting a paragraph from above article-------
"You must really want a girl."
Moms of boys hear this question all the time. Amy Williams, a mom of two boys and founder of BoyMom Designs, says the second she was pregnant with her second child and announced she was having another son, the responses also included, "I'm so sorry!" and "Oh no! Two boys!" Sometimes people would make these comments in front of her other son. "It was awful and so negative," says Williams. "It hasn't been an 'oh-no' experience. It's been a blast." Her advice is to focus on the fact that a woman is having a baby, which is wonderful on its own. She wishes her friends would have said, "Congratulations, two boys!" or simply, "You're having a baby...that's terrific."
Above para is really disheartning and particularly the lines "
"You must really want a girl."
Moms of boys hear this question all the time.
One should welcome what god has given us without questioning and without considering gender of the child.It may hurt boys as bad as it may hurt young girls in Asia.
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Proof that Boys are not wanted in USA and Europe
Why do a majority of the US prefer girls?
Gender Requested by Adoptive Parents in the US
70-90% Girls
10-30% Boys
Gender Requested by U.S. Parents Using MicroSort ( Preconception sex selection technique -reliable )
80% Girls
20% Boys
Gender Requested by U.S. Parents Using the Ericsson Method (Preconception sex selection technique -reliable)
Twice as many girls as boys
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Why do more parents want to have girls than boys?
Mickey Kaus seems incredulous that parents who use baby sex selection services usually prefer girls. He quotes this passage from an article in Elle:
Seventy-one percent of American families who use MicroSort—which is sex selection method :'—want a daughter. ... "The era of wanting a first-born male is gone, not to return," founder Ronald Ericsson, MD, has said.
What's behind the modern-day girl fetish? One explanation: Women envision a brighter future for their daughters than they do for their sons. Boys are practically the underdogs these days, having fallen behind girls on nearly every measure of academic achievement, from college attendance to high school graduation rates. ...
Americans, unlike much of the Eastern world, do not prefer boys. Of the first 111 Microsort attempts, 83 were for females and 28 were for males. True, the process began as a way to select for girls, and true, because it is better at selecting girls it is more likely to attract couples who want them. But there is something else going on as well, something Shettles and Ericsson learned a long time ago.
Of course, the parents' preferences aren't just objective calculations about the costs and benefits of being born a girl or a boy. As the Elle and NYT articles point out, a mother might want to have a daughter because she imagines they'd have a stronger relationship or because this conforms to her dream of how her life will end up. But if the parents are thinking about costs and benefits, they might want to have a girl -- who's less likely to be laid off in a recession, go to prison, or fight in a war, and more likely to grow up to earn a bachelor's degree, make more money (at least if she lives in a big city), and live longer.
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Search in google for
" 8 things you should never say to a mom"
I am taking quoting a paragraph from above article-------
"You must really want a girl."
Moms of boys hear this question all the time. Amy Williams, a mom of two boys and founder of BoyMom Designs, says the second she was pregnant with her second child and announced she was having another son, the responses also included, "I'm so sorry!" and "Oh no! Two boys!" Sometimes people would make these comments in front of her other son. "It was awful and so negative," says Williams. "It hasn't been an 'oh-no' experience. It's been a blast." Her advice is to focus on the fact that a woman is having a baby, which is wonderful on its own. She wishes her friends would have said, "Congratulations, two boys!" or simply, "You're having a baby...that's terrific."
Above para is really disheartning and particularly the lines "
"You must really want a girl."
Moms of boys hear this question all the time.
One should welcome what god has given us without questioning and without considering gender of the child.It may hurt boys as bad as it may hurt young girls in Asia.
____________________________________________________________-----
Proof that Boys are not wanted in USA and Europe
Why do a majority of the US prefer girls?
Gender Requested by Adoptive Parents in the US
70-90% Girls
10-30% Boys
Gender Requested by U.S. Parents Using MicroSort ( Preconception sex selection technique -reliable )
80% Girls
20% Boys
Gender Requested by U.S. Parents Using the Ericsson Method (Preconception sex selection technique -reliable)
Twice as many girls as boys
_________________________________________________
Why do more parents want to have girls than boys?
Mickey Kaus seems incredulous that parents who use baby sex selection services usually prefer girls. He quotes this passage from an article in Elle:
Seventy-one percent of American families who use MicroSort—which is sex selection method :'—want a daughter. ... "The era of wanting a first-born male is gone, not to return," founder Ronald Ericsson, MD, has said.
What's behind the modern-day girl fetish? One explanation: Women envision a brighter future for their daughters than they do for their sons. Boys are practically the underdogs these days, having fallen behind girls on nearly every measure of academic achievement, from college attendance to high school graduation rates. ...
Americans, unlike much of the Eastern world, do not prefer boys. Of the first 111 Microsort attempts, 83 were for females and 28 were for males. True, the process began as a way to select for girls, and true, because it is better at selecting girls it is more likely to attract couples who want them. But there is something else going on as well, something Shettles and Ericsson learned a long time ago.
Of course, the parents' preferences aren't just objective calculations about the costs and benefits of being born a girl or a boy. As the Elle and NYT articles point out, a mother might want to have a daughter because she imagines they'd have a stronger relationship or because this conforms to her dream of how her life will end up. But if the parents are thinking about costs and benefits, they might want to have a girl -- who's less likely to be laid off in a recession, go to prison, or fight in a war, and more likely to grow up to earn a bachelor's degree, make more money (at least if she lives in a big city), and live longer.
Read more: http://www.funonthenet.in/forums/index.php?topic=234737.msg2946738#msg2946738#ixzz1uZEl9Rnd
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