Showing posts with label thoughtful article. Show all posts
Showing posts with label thoughtful article. Show all posts

Thursday, August 1, 2019

Learn To Move On / Serious message

 


Learn To Move On
A wise man once sat in the audience & cracked a joke.
 All laughed like crazy. After a moment he cracked the same

Joke again and a little less people laughed this time.

 He cracked the same joke again & again,

 When there was no laughter in the crowd,

He smiled and said,
 "When u can't laugh on the same joke again & again,

Then why do u keep crying over the same thing over and over.
again" Learn to move on'-…!!!!

Friday, February 8, 2019

True educators.. thoughtful joke




 Was it inevitable or clever move!

A number of girls were beginning to use lipstick and would put it on in the bathroom. 
That was fine, but after they put on their lipstick they would press their lips to the mirror, leaving dozens of little lip prints. 

Finally the principal decided that something had to be done. 

She called all the girls to the bathroom and met them there with the maintenance 
man. 

She explained that all these lip prints were causing a major problem for the custodian who had to clean the mirrors every night. 

To demonstrate how difficult it was to clean the mirrors, she asked the maintenance man to clean one of the mirrors. 

He took out a long handled squeegee, dipped it into the toilet and then cleaned the mirror. 

Since then there have been no lip prints on the mirror. 


Tuesday, December 18, 2018

Silent in the Dark : Thoughtful quotes

 



So many words go unspoken, 
As we linger here in the dark. 
There is a thing or two I wish you to know, 
But all the words seem to slip away, 
As you tenderly wrap me in your embrace.

Still I wish I could find a way to say, 
I never thought dreams could come true 
Yet you showed me that they do, 
When you came into my life. 
You set my soul free, 
With every kiss we share. 


That from the moment I saw your face, 
These feelings washed over me 
Like a tidal wave agaist the jagged shore. 
Tell me you feel the same. 
Tell me there is nowhere else you would rather be. 
Then here at this moment in each others arms.

So many words go unspoken 
As we linger here in the dark. 
Trying to find a way to let the other know 
How wonderful life is here together silent in the dark.

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Wednesday, December 12, 2018

A beautiful Love Story " LOVE AS IT SHOULD BE" (MUST READ!)

IF YOU DON`T READ THIS YOU WILL MISS OUT ON SOMETHING WONDERFUL

John Glenn's true hero

For half a century, the world has applauded John Glenn as a heart-stirring American hero. He lifted the nation's spirits when, as one of the original Mercury 7 astronauts, he was blasted alone into orbit around the Earth; the enduring affection for him is so powerful that even now people find themselves misting up at the sight of his face or the sound of his voice. 

But for all these years, Glenn has had a hero of his own, someone who he has seen display endless courage of a different kind: 

Annie Glenn. 

They have been married for 68 years. 

He is 90; she turned 92 on Friday. 
This weekend there has been news coverage of the 50th anniversary of Glenn's flight into orbit. We are being reminded that, half a century down the line, he remains America's unforgettable hero. 

He has never really bought that. 

Because the heroism he most cherishes is of a sort that is seldom cheered. It belongs to the person he has known longer than he has known anyone else in the world. 
John Glenn and Annie Castor first knew each other when -- literally -- they shared a playpen. 

In New Concord, Ohio, his parents and hers were friends. When the families got together, their children played. 

John -- the future Marine fighter pilot, the future test-pilot ace, the future astronaut -- was pure gold from the start. He would end up having what it took to rise to the absolute pinnacle of American regard during the space race; imagine what it meant to be the young John Glenn in the small confines of New Concord. 

Three-sport varsity athlete, most admired boy in town, Mr. Everything. 

Annie Castor was bright, was caring, was talented, was generous of spirit. But she could talk only with the most excruciating of difficulty. It haunted her. 

Her stuttering was so severe that it was categorized as an "85%" disability -- 85% of the time, she could not manage to make words come out. 

When she tried to recite a poem in elementary school, she was laughed at. She was not able to speak on the telephone. She could not have a regular conversation with a friend. 

And John Glenn loved her. 

Even as a boy he was wise enough to understand that people who could not see past her stutter were missing out on knowing a rare and wonderful girl. 

They married on April 6, 1943. As a military wife, she found that life as she and John moved around the country could be quite hurtful. She has written: "I can remember some very painful experiences -- especially the ridicule." 

In department stores, she would wander unfamiliar aisles trying to find the right section, embarrassed to attempt to ask the salesclerks for help. In taxis, she would have to write requests to the driver, because she couldn't speak the destination out loud. In restaurants, she would point to the items on the menu. 

A fine musician, Annie, in every community where she and John moved, would play the organ in church as a way to make new friends. 

She and John had two children; she has written: "Can you imagine living in the modern world and being afraid to use the telephone? 'Hello' used to be so hard for me to say. I worried that my children would be injured and need a doctor. Could I somehow find the words to get the information across on the phone?" 

John, as a Marine aviator, flew 59 combat missions in World War II and 90 during the Korean War. Every time he was deployed, he and Annie said goodbye the same way. His last words to her before leaving were: 

"I'm just going down to the corner store to get a pack of gum." 

And, with just the two of them there, she was able to always reply: 

"Don't be long." 

On that February day in 1962 when the world held its breath and the Atlas rocket was about to propel him toward space, those were their words, once again. And in 1998, when, at 77, he went back to space aboard the shuttle Discovery, it was an understandably tense time for them. What if something happened to end their life together? 

She knew what he would say to her before boarding the shuttle. He did -- and this time he gave her a present to hold onto: 

A pack of gum. 

She carried it in a pocket next to her heart until he was safely home. 

Many times in her life she attempted various treatments to cure her stutter. None worked. 

But in 1973, she found a doctor in Virginia who ran an intensive program she and John hoped would help her. She traveled there to enroll and to give it her best effort. The miracle she and John had always waited for at last, as miracles will do, arrived. At age 53, she was able to talk fluidly, and not in brief, anxiety-ridden, agonizing bursts. 

John has said that on the first day he heard her speak to him with confidence and clarity, he dropped to his knees to offer a prayer of gratitude. 
He has written: "I saw Annie's perseverance and strength through the years and it just made me admire her and love her even more." He has heard roaring ovations in countries around the globe for his own valor, but his awe is reserved for Annie, and what she accomplished: "I don't know if I would have had the courage." 

Her voice is so clear and steady now that she regularly gives public talks. If you are lucky enough to know the Glenns, the sight and sound of them bantering and joking with each other and playfully finishing each others' sentences is something that warms you and makes you thankful just to be in the same room. 

But if you ever find yourself at an event where the Glenns are appearing, and you want to see someone so brimming with pride and love that you may feel your own tears start to well up, wait until the moment that Annie stands to say a few words to the audience. 
And as she begins, take a look at her husband's eyes.

Thursday, December 6, 2018

ALL THAT GLITTERS IS NOT GOLD: The Cage Dogs of Hong Kong


Cage dogs of Hong Kong: 

The tragedy of tens of thousands living in 6ft by 2ft rabbit hutches,in a city with more Louis Vuitton Shops than Paris

Hong Kong, one of the world's richest cities, is abuzz with a luxury property boom that has seen homes exchanged for record sums.

But the wealth of the city has a darker side, with tens of thousands priced out of housing altogether and forced to live in the most degrading conditions.
These pictures by British photographer Brian Cassey capture the misery of people - some estimates put the figure as high as 100,000 - who are forced to live in cages measuring just 6ft by 2 1/2ft.
Yan Chi Leung is mentally ill and lives in the 6ft by 2.5ft wire cage at the bottom of this stack of three
Kong Sui Kao, 64, sits in his home in a room with 19 other cages
The city is one of the planet's most densely packed metropolitan areas, with nearly 16,500 people living in every square mile of the territory.
Unscrupulous landlords are charging around US$200 a month for each cage, which are packed 20 to a room, and up to three levels high.

The lower cages are more expensive because you can almost stand inside them, but the conditions are no less squalid.
All this in a city with more Louis Vuitton shops than Paris.
Tai Lun Po, 79, has lived in the cage he is sitting in for 
an extraordinary 30 years
Eight-year-old Lee Ka Ying lives in a 6ft square 'cubicle cage home' 
with her mother
Yan Chi Keung eats takeaway outside his wire cage home - 
there are no cooking facilities
Tai Lun Po walks to the bathroom which he shares with 
the other residents. Occupants must share toilets and washing facilities, which are rudimentary. Many of the apartments have no kitchens, forcing their impoverished residents to spend there meagre incomes on takeaway food.
The cage homes have been a running scandal in Hong Kong's housing market for decades, yet rather than disappear, they are on the rise.
As the world economic crisis has lashed the city a former British territory whose economy is focused on financial services, more have been forced to turn to them for a place to stay.
The alternative is life on the streets.
Mr Yan smokes a cigarette amid his neighbours in his cage flat
Tai Lun Po walks the corridors of his Mongkok Hong Kong cage home
Tang Man Wai, 60, a retired restaurant worker, is forced to spend what little money he has on take-away food
A building in Mongkok that houses cage people, 
sometimes squeezed twenty to a room
One cage dweller, Cheung, who lives in Sham Shui Po, 
told the Asia Times Online he endures appallingly cramped and fetid conditions. 'The temperature inside the cages can be two to three degrees higher than what they are outside,' he said.
'It's really uncomfortable, and sometimes I cannot sleep 
until after 5 in the morning.'
Cockroaches, wall lizards, lice and rats are common. 'Sometimes I am worried if lizards or cockroaches will crawl into my ears at night,' said Cheung.

Thoughtful Article : THE TRUE COLOR OF FRIENDSHIP :)

 

Once upon a time the colors of the world started to quarrel. All claimed that they were the best. The most important. The most useful and favorite.

Green said:

"Clearly I am the most important. I am the sign of life and of hope. I was chosen for grass, trees and leaves. Without me, all animals would die. Look over the countryside and you will see that I am in the majority."

Blue interrupted:

"You only think about the earth, but consider the sky and the sea. It is the water that is the basis of life and drawn up by the clouds from the deep sea. The sky gives space and peace and serenity. Without my peace, you would all be nothing."

Yellow chuckled:

"You are all so serious. I bring laughter, gaiety, and warmth into the world. The sun is yellow, the moon is yellow, the stars are yellow. Every time you look at a sunflower, the whole world starts to smile. Without me there would be no fun."

Orange started next to blow her trumpet:

"I am the color of health and strength. I may be scarce, but I am precious for I serve the needs of human life. I carry the most important vitamins. Think of carrots, pumpkins, oranges, mangoes, and
papayas. I don't hang around all the time, but when I fill the sky at sunrise or sunset, my beauty is so striking that no one gives another thought to any of you."

Red could stand it no longer he shouted out:

"I am the ruler of all of you. I am blood - life's blood! I am the color of danger and of bravery. I am willing to fight for a cause. I bring fire into the blood. Without me, the earth would be as empty as
the moon. I am the color of passion and of love, the red rose, the poinsettia and the poppy."

Purple rose up to his full height:

He was very tall and spoke with great pomp: "I am the color of royalty and power. Kings, chiefs, and bishops have always chosen me for I am the sign of authority and wisdom. People do not question me! They listen and obey."

Finally Indigo spoke, much more quietly than all the others, but with just as much determination:

"Think of me. I am the color of silence. You hardly notice me, but without me you all become superficial. I represent thought and reflection, twilight and deep water. You need me for balance and
contrast, for prayer and inner peace."

And so the colors went on boasting, each convinced of his or her own superiority. Their quarreling became louder and louder.

Suddenly there was a startling flash of bright lightening thunder rolled and boomed.
Rain started to pour down relentlessly. The colors crouched down in fear, drawing close to one another for comfort.

In the midst of the clamor, Rain began to speak:

"You foolish colors, fighting among yourselves, each trying to dominate the rest. Don't you know that you were each made for a special purpose, unique and different? Join hands with one another and
come to me."

Doing as they were told, the colors united and joined hands.

The Rain continued:

"From now on, when it rains, each of you will stretch across the sky in a great bow of color as a reminder that you can all live in peace. The Rainbow is a sign of hope for tomorrow." And so, whenever a good rain washes the world, and a Rainbow appears in the sky, let us remember to appreciate one another.

Wednesday, December 5, 2018

Rest in peace Eva Ekvall : Life is...unpredictable!

Eva Ekvall, the former Miss Venezuela who finished third in the Miss Universe pageant in 2001,has died of breast cancer aged 28.  
 

 
Aged 17, Ekvall was crowned Miss Venezuela of 2000, and the next year was third runner-up in the Miss Universe Pageant.Her name was also listed as one of the most beautiful and  the most sexiest women in earth.As a Buddhist,she was the first non-Christian to have won the title of Miss Venezuela.
 

 

 
Ekvall was married to the radio producer John Fabio Bermudez and the couple had a 2-year-old daughter.In February 2010, just months after giving birth to her child, Ekvall was diagnosed with advanced breast cancer, and underwent eight months of treatment that included chemotherapy, radiotherapy and a double radical mastectomy.

Last year, she told newspaper El Nacional of her need to send out a message about cancer prevention. And the model explained, "I hate to see photos in which I come out ugly.But you know what? Nobody ever said cancer is pretty or that I should look like Miss Venezuela when I have cancer".

 
She chronicled this experience in a book of photographs, Fuera de Foco (Out of Focus), released on December 2010. She went on to become an advocate for SenosAyuda, a cancer awareness group.
 

Pics of her last days...

In a heart-breaking Twitter post over the weekend, Eva's husband posted a photo showing a close-up of his hand holding hers at her last moment, with the caption, "Always together ... I love you wife".

 
Her family has confirmed the model passed away at a hospital in Houston on Saturday (December 17, 2011), according to the Huffington Post.
 
 
Everything in life is temporary, because everything changes...
That's why it takes great courage to love, knowing it might end anytime but having the faith it will last forever...
 
life is like  morning dew drop in end of  grass ,for you and me everybody have to face this noble truth.
 



Wednesday, November 13, 2013

Thought of the Days -VII pls read it

 


*Udas hone k liye umr padi h njar uthao samne zindgi khdi h apni hnsi ko hontho se dur na jane dena apki hnsi k sath hmari khushi judi h*
1    Optimism is essentials to achievement and it is also the foundation of coverage and of true progress
2    Flowers are a proud assertion that a ray of beauty out values all the utilities of the world.
3    Flowers are the sweetest things God ever made and forget to put a soul into.
4    Flowers are without hope because hope is tomorrow and flowers have no tomorrow,
5    Keep love in your heart, a life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.
6    Each flower is a soul blossoming out to nature.
7    Happiness held is the seed happiness shared is the flower.
8    When the flowers blooms, the fees come uninvited.
9    The flowers that follow the sun does so even in cloudy days.
10  Flowers leave some of their fragrance in the hand that best ows theme.
11  All the flowers of all the tomorrows are in the seeds of to days.
12   Enjoy or sadness flowers are our constant friends.
(a)     Tujhko paakar hum khona nahi chahte,Itna khush hokar hum rona nahi chahte, ye aalam hai humara tumhari yaad me, ki aankhe neend me hai aur hum sona nahi chahte.
(b)     Zindgi do din ki hai, ek din humare haq mein, ek din humare khilaf. Jis din haq mein ho gurur mat karna aur jis din khilaf ho thoda sabr jarur karna.
(c)     Agar kisi ko kuch dena hai to usey acha waqt do, Kyon ki aap har chiz wapis le sakte ho, magar kisi ko diya hua acha waqt wapis nahi le sakte.
(d)   Hamesha samjhota krna seekho, kyu ki thoda sa jhuk jana kisi rishte ko hamesha ke liya tod dene se bohat behtar hai.
(e)     Life me kabhi kisi ko viswas dilane ki jarurat nahi hoti kyo ki dushman kabhi yakin nahi krega or dost kabhi shaq nahi karega.
(f)     You'll never know how often you're in my thoughts and how much I wish you all the happiness that life can bring to a wonderful person like you loving Thoughts of you.
(g)     Aasman k tare aksar puchte h kya tumhe aaj b intezar hai uske lot aane ka? or dil muskurake kehta hai mujhe to ab bhi yakin nahi uske jane ka.
"KHUSH RAHO" Isliya nahi ki aap khush rahna chahte hai Balki isliye ki....("-_-")HUM aapko khush dekhna chahte h.

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Saturday, January 26, 2013

Friday, October 19, 2012

Learning from the West

 



Learning from the West:
by.......Narayana Murthy
Ladies and gentlemen:
It is a pleasure to be here at the Lal Bahadur Shastri Institute of Management. Lal Bahadur Shastri was a man of strong values and he epitomized simple living. He was a freedom fighter and innovative administrator who contributed to nation building in full measure. It is indeed a matter of pride for me to be chosen for the Lal Bahadur Shastri Award for Public Administration and Management Sciences. I thank the jury for this honor.
When I got the invitation to speak here, I decided to speak on an important topic on which I have pondered for years - the role of Western values in contemporary Indian society. Coming from a company that is built on strong values, the topic is close to my heart. Moreover, an organization is representative of society, and some of the lessons that I have learnt are applicable in the national context. In fact, values drive progress and define quality of life in society.
The word community joins two Latin words com ("together" or "with") and unus ("one"). A community, then, is both one and many. It is a unified multitude and not a mere group of people. As it is said in the Vedas: Man can live individually, but can survive only collectively. Hence, the challenge is to form a progressive community by balancing the interests of the individual and that of the society. To meet this, we need to develop a value system where people accept modest sacrifices for the common good.
What is a value system? It is the protocol for behavior that enhances the trust, confidence and commitment of members of the community. It goes beyond the domain of legality - it is about decent and desirable behavior. Further, it includes putting the community interests ahead of your own. Thus, our collective survival and progress is predicated on sound values.
There are two pillars of the cultural value system - loyalty to family and loyalty to community. One should not be in isolation to the other, because, successful societies are those which combine both harmoniously. It is in this context that I will discuss the role of Western values in contemporary Indian society.
Some of you here might say that most of what I am going to discuss are actually Indian values in old ages, and not Western values. I live in the present, not in the bygone era. Therefore, I have seen these values practiced primarily in the West and not in India. Hence, the title of the topic.
I am happy as long as we practice these values - whether we call it Western or old Indian values. As an Indian, I am proud to be part of a culture, which has deep-rooted family values. We have tremendous loyalty to the family. For instance, parents make enormous sacrifices for their children. They support them until they can stand on their own feet. On the other side, children consider it their duty to take care of aged parents.
We believe: Mathru devo bhava - mother is God, and pithru devo bhava - father is God. Further, brothers and sisters sacrifice for each other. In fact, the eldest brother or sister is respected by all the other siblings. As for marriage, it is held to be a sacred union - husband and wife are bonded, most often, for life. In joint families, the entire family works towards the welfare of the family. There is so much love and affection in our family life.
This is the essence of Indian values and one of our key strengths. Our families act as a critical support mechanism for us. In fact, the credit to the success of Infosys goes, as much to the founders as to their families, for supporting them through the tough times. Unfortunately, our attitude towards family life is not reflected in our attitude towards community behavior. From littering the streets to corruption to breaking of contractual obligations, we are apathetic to the common good. In the West - the US, Canada, Europe, Australia, New Zealand - individuals understand that they have to be responsible towards their community.
The primary difference between the West and us is that, there, people have a much better societal orientation. They care more for the society than we do. Further, they generally sacrifice more for the society than us. Quality of life is enhanced because of this. This is where we need to learn from the West.
I will talk about some of the lessons that we, Indians, can learn from the West.
In the West, there is respect for the public good. For instance, parks free of litter, clean streets, public toilets free of graffiti - all these are instances of care for the public good. On the contrary, in India, we keep our houses clean and water our gardens everyday - but, when we go to a park, we do not think twice before littering the place.
Corruption, as we see in India, is another example of putting the interest of oneself, and at best that of one's family, above that of the society. Society is relatively corruption free in the West. For instance, it is very difficult to bribe a police officer into avoiding a speeding ticket.
This is because of the individual's responsible behavior towards the community as a whole On the contrary, in India, corruption, tax evasion, cheating and bribery have eaten into our vitals. For instance, contractors bribe officials, and construct low-quality roads and bridges. The result is that society loses in the form of substandard defence equipment and infrastructure, and low-quality recruitment, just to name a few impediments. Unfortunately, this behavior is condoned by almost everyone.
Apathy in solving community matters has held us back from making progress, which is otherwise within our reach. We see serious problems around us but do not try to solve them. We behave as if the problems do not exist or is somebody else's. On the other hand, in the West, people solve societal problems proactively. There are several examples of our apathetic attitude. For instance, all of us are aware of the problem of drought in India.
More than 40 years ago, Dr. K. L. Rao - an irrigation expert, suggested creation of a water grid connecting all the rivers in North and South India, to solve this problem. Unfortunately, nothing has been done about this. The story of power shortage in Bangalore is another instance. In 1983, it was decided to build a thermal power plant to meet Bangalore's power requirements. Unfortunately, we have still not started it. Further, the Milan subway in Bombay is in a deplorable state for the last 40 years, and no action has been taken.
To quote another example, considering the constant travel required in the software industry; five years ago, I had suggested a 240-page passport. This would eliminate frequent visits to the passport office. In fact, we are ready to pay for it. However, I am yet to hear from the Ministry of External Affairs on this.
We, Indians, would do well to remember Thomas Hunter's words: Idleness travels very slowly, and poverty soon overtakes it. What could be the reason for all this? We were ruled by foreigners for over thousand years. Thus, we have always believed that public issues belonged to some foreign ruler and that we have no role in solving them.
Moreover, we have lost the will to proactively solve our own problems. Thus, we have got used to just executing someone else's orders. Borrowing Aristotle's words: We are what we repeatedly do. Thus, having done this over the years, the decision-makers in our society are not trained for solving problems. Our decision-makers look to somebody else to take decisions. Unfortunately, there is nobody to look up to, and this is the tragedy.
Our intellectual arrogance has also not helped our society. I have traveled extensively, and in my experience, have not come across another society where people are as contemptuous of better societies as we are, with as little progress as we have achieved. Remember that arrogance breeds hypocrisy. No other society gloats so much about the past as we do, with as little current accomplishment.
Friends, this is not a new phenomenon, but at least a thousand years old. For instance, Al Barouni, the famous Arabic logician and traveler of the 10th century, who spent about 30 years in India from 997 AD to around 1027 AD, referred to this trait of Indians. According to him, during his visit, most Indian pundits considered it below their dignity even to hold arguments with him. In fact, on a few occasions when a pundit was willing to listen to hm, and found his arguments to be very sound, he invariably asked Barouni: which Indian pundit taught these smart things!
The most important attribute of a progressive society is respect for others who have accomplished more than they themselves have, and learn from them. Contrary to this, our leaders make us believe that other societies do not know anything! At the same time, everyday, in the newspapers, you will find numerous claims from our leaders that ours is the greatest nation. These people would do well to remember Thomas Carlyle's words: The greatest of faults is to be conscious of none.
If we have to progress, we have to change this attitude, listen to people who have performed better than us, learn from them and perform better than them. Infosys is a good example of such an attitude. We continue to rationalize our failures. No other society has mastered this part as well as we have. Obviously, this is an excuse to justify our incompetence, corruption, and apathy. This attitude has to change. As Sir Josiah Stamp has said: It is easy to dodge our responsibilities, but we cannot dodge the consequences of dodging our responsibilities.
Another interesting attribute, which we Indians can learn from the West, is their accountability. Irrespective of your position, in the West, you are held accountable for what you do. However, in India, the more 'important' you are, the less answerable you are. For instance, a senior politician once declared that he 'forgot' to file his tax returns for 10 consecutive years - and he got away with it. To quote another instance, there are over 100 loss making public sector units (central) in India. Nevertheless, I have not seen action taken for bad performance against top managers in these organizations.
Dignity of labor is an integral part of the Western value system. In the West, each person is proud about his or her labor that raises honest sweat. On the other hand, in India, we tend to overlook the significance of those who are not in professional jobs. We have a mind set that reveres only supposedly intellectual work.
For instance, I have seen many engineers, fresh from college, who only want to do cutting-edge work and not work that is of relevance to business and the country. However, be it an organization or society, there are different people performing different roles. For success, all these people are required to discharge their duties. This includes everyone from the CEO to the person who serves tea - every role is important. Hence, we need a mind set that reveres everyone who puts in honest work.
Indians become intimate even without being friendly. They ask favors of strangers without any hesitation. For instance, the other day, while I was traveling from Bangalore to Mantralaya, I met a fellow traveler on the train. Hardly 5 minutes into the conversation, he requested me to speak to his MD about removing him from the bottom 10% list in his company, earmarked for disciplinary action. I was reminded of what Rudyard Kipling once said: A westerner can be friendly without being intimate while an easterner tends to be intimate without being friendly.
Yet another lesson to be learnt from the West, is about their professionalism in dealings. The common good being more important than personal equations, people do not let personal relations interfere with their professional dealings. For instance, they don't hesitate to chastise a colleague, even if he is a personal friend, for incompetent work.
In India, I have seen that we tend to view even work interactions from a personal perspective. Further, we are the most 'thin-skinned' society in the world - we see insults where none is meant. This may be because we were not free for most of the last thousand years. Further, we seem to extend this lack of professionalism to our sense of punctuality. We do not seem to respect the other person's time.
The Indian Standard Time somehow seems to be always running late. Moreover, deadlines are typically not met. How many public projects are completed on time? The disheartening aspect is that we have accepted this as the norm rather than the exception. In the West, they show professionalism by embracing meritocracy. Meritocracy by definition means that we cannot let personal prejudices affect our evaluation of an individual's performance. As we increasingly start to benchmark ourselves with global standards, we have to embrace meritocracy.
In the West, right from a very young age, parents teach their children to be independent in thinking. Thus, they grow up to be strong, confident individuals. In India, we still suffer from feudal thinking. I have seen people, who are otherwise bright, refusing to show independence and preferring to be told what to do by their boss. We need to overcome this attitude if we have to succeed globally.
The Western value system teaches respect to contractual obligation. In the West, contractual obligations are seldom dishonored. This is important - enforceability of legal rights and contracts is the most important factor in the enhancement of credibility of our people and nation.
In India, we consider our marriage vows as sacred. We are willing to sacrifice in order to respect our marriage vows. However, we do not extend this to the public domain. For instance, India had an unfavorable contract with Enron. Instead of punishing the people responsible for negotiating this, we reneged on the contract - this was much before we came to know about the illegal activities at Enron.
To quote another instance, I had given recommendations to several students for the national scholarship for higher studies in US universities. Most of them did not return to India even though contractually they were obliged to spend five years after their degree in India.
In fact, according to a professor at a reputed US university, the maximum default rate for student loans is among Indians - all of these students pass out in flying colors and land lucrative jobs, yet they refuse to pay back their loans. Thus, their action has made it difficult for the students after them, from India, to obtain loans. We have to change this attitude.
Further, we Indians do not display intellectual honesty. For example, our political leaders use mobile phones to tell journalists on the other side that they do not believe in technology! If we want our youngsters to progress, such hypocrisy must be stopped. We are all aware of our rights as citizens. Nevertheless, we often fail to acknowledge the duty that accompanies every right. To borrow Dwight Eisenhower's words: People that values its privileges above its principles soon loses both. Our duty is towards the community as a whole, as much as it is towards our families.
We have to remember that fundamental social problems grow out of a lack of commitment to the common good. To quote Henry Beecher: Culture is that which helps us to work for the betterment of all. Hence, friends, I do believe that we can make our society even better by assimilating these Western values into our own culture - we will be stronger for it.
Most of our behavior comes from greed, lack of self-confidence, lack of confidence in the nation, and lack of respect for the society. To borrow Gandhi's words: There is enough in this world for everyone's need, but not enough for everyone's greed. Let us work towards a society where we would do unto others what we would have others do unto us. Let us all be responsible citizens who make our country a great place to live. In the words of Churchill: Responsibility is the price of greatness. We have to extend our family values beyond the boundaries of our home.
Finally, let us work towards maximum welfare of the maximum people - Samasta janaanaam sukhino bhavantu. Thus, let us - people of this generation, conduct ourselves as great citizens rather than just good people so that we can serve as good examples for our younger generation.
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